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General => The Campfire => Topic started by: mike4947 on Jan 20, 2004, 04:02 PM

Title: Well I'm alone now, and it hurts
Post by: mike4947 on Jan 20, 2004, 04:02 PM
You folks haven't know but my wife has been teminal with cancer for the last two years and finally the chemo treatments stopped working this fall.
She died this morning, and with the help of Hospice I was able to keep her home where she wanted to be and comfortable and pain free.
 
You hear folks talk about someone being the love of your life and I always wondered if that was possible, then I met Linda. We only had 3 years together and we were married on New Years Eve 2001. But I wouldn't have traded one minute with her for an extra hundred years of life without her.
 
I'm not looking for sympathy, I feel I'm just notifying family as you folks are family to me.
 
This summer I'll probably meet a few of you as Linda's wish was she be creamated and I've got a list of her favorite spots in the world and her ashes will be scattered on them. Quite a few are campgrounds and of course for people that knew her; the panda areas at Washington and San Diego zoos.
 
Right up until last week, she make me pull out all the campground and trailer brochures we had collected and she enjoyed just going throught them with me. So folks now you know why this last year we've been without trailer.
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Post by: NightOwl on Jan 20, 2004, 04:07 PM
Mike, you have described a remarkable and very loving and unselfish woman.  Death cant truly take her away from you as long as you have these sweet memories.  And three years with the love of your life isnt long enough, but then even 50 years wouldnt be long enough when you have blessed with such a good marriage.  May God comfort you and the others who knew and  loved Linda.

The people who work with Hospice are truly Angels of Mercy.

And thank you for sharing your story--it makes the rest of us stop and think of what is really important  in life and thankful for all those who share their love with us
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Post by: SheBantam on Jan 20, 2004, 04:10 PM
Quote from: mike4947You hear folks talk about someone being the love of your life and I always wondered if that was possible, then I met Linda. We only had 3 years together and we were married on New Years Eve 2001. But I wouldn't have traded one minute with her for an extra hundred years of life without her.
 
I'm not looking for sympathy, I feel I'm just notifying family as you folks are family to me.

Will you accept my prayers for you.  I do know what lonliness is and I do know what it is to loose someone so close that it feels like a piece of you went with them.  I do not have the words to say because at this point, nothing I or anyone could say can help much.  

God bless you.
Paula
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Post by: MommaMia on Jan 20, 2004, 04:18 PM
How lucky you were to have found the love of your life and had three wonderful years together.  I only wish that there could have been many more.

I'm sure she knew how lucky she was to have someone who cherished her like you do.

Bless you both.
With my deepest sympathies~
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Post by: Camperroo on Jan 20, 2004, 05:15 PM
It sounds like you both had a beautiful life together and I'm so sorry for your loss now.  However, it sounds like she gave you a wonderful gift in memories and I'm sure she told you time and again she would want you to be happy and to go on with life as a great adventure.  It sounds like she enjoyed adventures.

My thoughts are with you and I wish you well.
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Post by: brainpause on Jan 20, 2004, 05:19 PM
Mike,

Not many things get me misty-eyed. But as a fellow camper, who I have come to appreciate here and at other sites, I want you to know that I will be praying for you and my thoughts will be with you.

May you find strength, Mike.

Larry
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Post by: Gone-Camping on Jan 20, 2004, 05:26 PM
Mike, I'm not real good with this subject, and never know what to say. You seem to have great resolve and are taking this well. I've had loved ones taken by cancer too, it's not pretty, and it's awful waiting for the end to come. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck and God bless...
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Post by: luvourjayco on Jan 20, 2004, 07:58 PM
not much one can say to someone they know by a log in name and a message board. ((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))) and we're here if you need to talk.
You and your family will be in our prayer.
God blessing to you.
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Post by: cyclone on Jan 20, 2004, 08:10 PM
Just wanted to know you are in my thoughts as well.  From what I've read, you shared a love than many of us only dream of.  Be strong.
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Post by: jpreiser on Jan 20, 2004, 08:16 PM
So sorry to hear of your loss and heavens gain. You are in my thoughts and prayers....
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Post by: cb on Jan 20, 2004, 08:30 PM
Oh, Mike, I feel so sad for you.  It's so hard to make sense out of this life, love and death stuff.  Please let your family and friends (including PUTimes friends) console you. When you come to San Diego, we'd love to meet you.  God bless you.
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Post by: tlhdoc on Jan 20, 2004, 08:48 PM
I am sorry to hear of your great loss.  It sounds like you had a wonderful marriage.  May you meet her again in a better place.
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Post by: AustinBoston on Jan 20, 2004, 10:03 PM
Mike,

It takes time.

I've heard it said "It takes 2 years to get over the death of a parent, 5 years to get over the death of a spouse, and you never get over the death of a child."  I don't know if that's all true, and I'm sure it's different for every person and every relationship, but the point is the same.  It takes time.

PJay and I will keep you in our prayers, and feel free to keep us informed about how things are going for you.

Austin
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Post by: Kelly on Jan 20, 2004, 10:26 PM
Words fail me ... might I just say that my thoughts are with you, Mike.  Sounds like you and Linda shared something incredibly special.  

I hope you find comfort in your family and friends ...
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Post by: Miss-Teri on Jan 20, 2004, 11:07 PM
Sounds like not only were you blessed to have her in your life, but she was blessed to have you as well.  Having someone you love there with you to love you and care for you until the end is what we all hope for in life.  
I'm truly sorry for your loss.
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Post by: Miller Tyme on Jan 21, 2004, 02:21 AM
Mike-

 
What can I say. I just found out about your wife's condition last week. God bless you for the strength of both you and your wife. Linda and I send our condolences.
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Post by: wiininkwe on Jan 21, 2004, 06:03 AM
Mike, I can only say that my thoughts and prayers are woven with those of all your friends and family here at PUT.   They are wrapped around you like a warm blanket in the night.  
Toni
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Post by: Viking99 on Jan 21, 2004, 06:16 AM
Mike,
Sorry about your loss. You will be in my prayers
Very sorry to hear about your loss. You will be in my prayers.
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Post by: whitestar505 on Jan 21, 2004, 06:25 AM
mike4947,

     Sorry to hear about your loss. God Bless you both!
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Post by: Dayton Dave on Jan 21, 2004, 07:15 AM
MIke;

May God grant you peace and comfort during this time.  God doesn't promise that we will not have loss or pain in our lives, he does allow us to be able to deal with these issues.  Trust in him and lean on the arms of friends.  We share in your grief and will continue to be here as you find a new path to travel.  God bless you and yours.

Dave
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Post by: Used 2B PopUPTimes on Jan 21, 2004, 07:19 AM
Mike,
We feel awfull about your loss and you are in our thoughts.
Dave
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Post by: julecav on Jan 21, 2004, 07:45 AM
Our sympathies and thoughts are with you.  So sorry for your loss.
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Post by: whitestar505 on Jan 21, 2004, 07:57 AM
mike4947,

     Sorry to hear about your loss. God Bless you both!
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Post by: vjm1639 on Jan 21, 2004, 08:09 AM
Mike,   I am so saddened to hear of your loss.  I can't imagine the pain you must feel nor are there any words to say to "make it better".   Just know that our prayers are with you in your time of need and comfort yourself with wonderful thoughts of the good times you had together.  It sounds like it was a truely special love.  It certainly does make us stop and think how blessed we are to have our wonderful significant others in our lives and reminds us to remember that every day.  
 
 God bless you!
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Post by: angelsmom10 on Jan 21, 2004, 08:12 AM
Mike, so sorry of your loss, our prayers are with you.
 
Not that this helps, at least you had the time you did together and really enjoyed each other.
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Post by: DiW on Jan 21, 2004, 08:21 AM
Mike,
I'm so sorry for your loss but glad you found each other, even if it was for such a short time. Those memories are priceless and that love will remain in your heart forever.
Diane
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Post by: kathybrj on Jan 21, 2004, 03:27 PM
mike, we are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Post by: don on Jan 21, 2004, 03:35 PM
Mike,
So very sorry for your loss. You and Linda are in our prayers, God Bless.
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Post by: gr8grandpa on Jan 21, 2004, 07:29 PM
I am not very good with words at a time like this. I am sorry for your lose. I read your post yesterday but could not post. I had too many tears in my eyes. We lost a daughter to cancer four years ago. My camping buddies are her grandsons so I still have a part of her. Time will not completly erase the pain but it will ease it.
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Post by: maromeo on Jan 21, 2004, 07:46 PM
Mike, I am so sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts. Give yourself time to heal. You are blessed with your friends and family at PUT. Take care.
Mary Romeo
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Post by: B-flat on Jan 21, 2004, 08:12 PM
Mike, the love of your life was thinking of camping all during this time.  Now that's truly remarkable.  She was doing the same thing that a lot of us are doing:  dreaming about camping and being in certain campgrounds.  This was a way she could stay focused and could dream and hope.  I'm truly sorry and I know how you feel as I recently lost a very good friend to cancer.  At least now, there is no more suffering and pain for her.  My thoughts and prayers go out to you.
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Post by: topcat7736 on Jan 21, 2004, 08:19 PM
Mike,
We're saddenend by your loss and our thoughts & hearts are with you and your family.
Peggy & Al
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Post by: SactoCampers on Jan 21, 2004, 08:37 PM
Mike,

I don't have anything to say that can make you feel better. You've been a friend on this board and I wanted you to know that you're in my thoughts.
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Post by: andym86 on Jan 21, 2004, 09:02 PM
Mike
I am very sorry to hear about your loss.So many things are racing through my mind right now and I won't even try to put them into words.
As you said, we are all like family here and as a family we grieve with you.
Sincerely
Andy
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Post by: garym053 on Jan 21, 2004, 09:03 PM
Mike, So many others have said these things in a way far better than I can, so just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers! May God bless and comfort you in this time of loss and mourning!
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Post by: Diplomat on Jan 21, 2004, 09:23 PM
Mike,

Thanks for taking the time to share your grief with us.  You and your family will be in my prayers.
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Post by: NCSunshine on Jan 21, 2004, 09:45 PM
Mike,

Sorry to hear of your wife's passing.  May God keep holding you in His comforting arms as you walk through this time of pain.  God Bless and let us know how you are doing.

Julia
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Post by: Acts 2:38 girl on Jan 22, 2004, 05:54 AM
Mike,
Thanks for sharing with us.  It must have taken a lot of strength for you to bear all that.  I hope you have friends and family around to help support you right now.  Please come back and talk when you can, we are all here and your not alone.  We will be praying for you.
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Post by: Papaso on Jan 22, 2004, 06:47 AM
So sorry, your in our prayers. God bless.