RE: It s a girl...

[NCSunshine]

 startx
Barbara,
 
 I am glad to hear that you may get the second child also.  We have three adopted girls and the second and third are from the same birthmother.  We could not afford the third one also, but we have made it for two years so I guess we can make it for more years to come.
 
 All I can say, is follow what you feel is right.  God will bless you either way.  We were told because the third was biracial not to get her because people would always tease her and it might make it hard on the other two.  We said that as long as she had love and support at home, hopefully it would help her through the bad.  
 
 Well guess what, the ones that were so against it spoil her the most.  She is a very loving child and they eat it up.  So just goes to show that what others think is not right for your family, may be the best thing to happen to your family.  It is totally up to you.
 
 God Bless you and your family[]

[Camperroo]

 startx
Barbara your sense of family and love is inspiring.  How lucky for these children to be a part of your lives and how lucky for you to have the priviledge of these beautiful gifts.

[Acts 2:38 girl]

 startx

I think we can handle it though, lots of people have four or five kids, and they seem relatively sane!            

 Well, we re on our way to #4 and I think we re pretty sane - MOST of the time.  I do have my moments though!! []

[Miller Tyme]

 startx
Brian and Barbara-
 The world needs more parents like you[]
 In our case, TJ and Tiffany are now living with us because of a similiar situation. Linda s daughter was having problems, and Linda has had TJ since he was 2(now and Tiffany since she was 6 months old(now 6). They can be a handful at times(TJ has ADHD), but they have come to call Linda " mom"  and me " dad" (even though we aren t married-yet).[] Linda s daughter has shown no indication of taking them back, and at one time we had all four of her children, until Linda started having medical problems.
 Again, God bless you and good luck![8D]

[iwantapopup]

 startx
I think you are doing the right thing.  It the new baby turns out to also be born under the same situation as her sister, it would be so sad for them to be raised apart.  My granddaughter has a half-sister; her dad (my daughter is not married to him) fathered another child.  My daughter and the other baby s mother talked about it and have decided the girls should know each other and spend time together.  While there is no way for them to live together, at least they will have involement during their lives which is important.  
 
 And we know that God will somehow provide and you will make ends meet and I hope God continues to give you unending joy from all your children.

[startx]

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Well, right now the baby is with her birth parents.  We are monitoring the situation, to see if she will be well cared for etc, but last reports were the family was doing well, and that the house was clean, mother looked " clean" , and baby was doing quite well.  Perhaps she will finally make the decision to do the right thing for this new little one.

[jstaddwtr]

 startx
Sometimes the heart knows best!
 
 Awesome!

[CamperJones]

 startx
Barb -
 From one who tried everything I knew to get my son s sibling (the birth mother decided to keep him) I applaud you for what you are doing for THEIR peace of mind and offering to them your unselfish love to keep them together.  You and your husband are truly worthy of all of God s Blessings and I have no doubt that He will provide.

[startx]

 startx
Well, one would almost think this is Austin s dead thread dredging, but I really do have an update.
 
 We were contacted by the state last week.  They ve been looking for the baby since the first week in March.  Why on earth they only now contacted us I have no idea.  At any rate, we know where the baby is, and gave all the information we had regarding her current conditions.  Let s just say it isn t good, the baby was seen being fed liquor by the parents, by a reputable source, and she also tested positive for drugs at birth, but the hospital took their sweet time involving the state.  The state says we can take the baby from them immediately no waiting for a home study etc this time, if they take her from the parents.  The baby just came back in state from a visit with the grandmother, and now I am waiting to see what the state is going to do, since they have to go and visit.
 
 We may be adding another baby to our family after all.  Here s hoping that is the outcome, because her current situation is not one that a baby should have to be raised in.  She has no routine, no structure, a different person takes care of her every couple of days as they shuffle her from mother, to aunt, to grandmother etc.  She never knows who will be there when she wakes up, or what house she will be in etc.  I venture to say she has probably not had opportunities to develop motor skills etc, much less that necessary bond with a primary caregiver.

[NCSunshine]

 startx
I pray all things will go well.  My DD s are adopted also, and it is truly a blessing even when they are driving me NUTS[]

[birol]

 startx
I hope everything goes well with you and the baby. We are involved with a friends of DD s who is in a foster home and being thrown around by CHildren s Aid Society, they can be so ignorant sometimes, it is amazing .....
 
 
 

[birol]

 startx

 

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 Well, one would almost think this is Austin s dead thread dredging, but I really do have an update.
 
 We were contacted by the state last week.  They ve been looking for the baby since the first week in March.  Why on earth they only now contacted us I have no idea.  At any rate, we know where the baby is, and gave all the information we had regarding her current conditions.  Let s just say it isn t good, the baby was seen being fed liquor by the parents, by a reputable source, and she also tested positive for drugs at birth, but the hospital took their sweet time involving the state.  The state says we can take the baby from them immediately no waiting for a home study etc this time, if they take her from the parents.  The baby just came back in state from a visit with the grandmother, and now I am waiting to see what the state is going to do, since they have to go and visit.
 
 We may be adding another baby to our family after all.  Here s hoping that is the outcome, because her current situation is not one that a baby should have to be raised in.  She has no routine, no structure, a different person takes care of her every couple of days as they shuffle her from mother, to aunt, to grandmother etc.  She never knows who will be there when she wakes up, or what house she will be in etc.  I venture to say she has probably not had opportunities to develop motor skills etc, much less that necessary bond with a primary caregiver.
 

 Got the baby ?  Any news ? I hope she is doing ok ......
 
 We were thinking about adopting/fostering one child, but her behaviour is going down the hill so fast, it is scary [>:][>:][>:]

[griffsmom]

 startx
Hi Barbara,
 
 We too are a family created by the glorious gift of adoption, although it was neither a short nor an easy road for us.  My heart goes out to you in this time of uncertainty and in concern for this baby girl.  I work in the adoption field and have some seen some dreadful situations with birthmoms, so I don t know why it continues to amaze me how people can neglect and abuse a precious little defenseless baby, but it does.  And it breaks my heart.  I will keep her and you in my prayers.
 
 PS please keep us posted on how you and she are doing!

[startx]

 startx
No updates, investigation still ongoing, and she has sent the baby out of state until things settle down in our state, thinking to prevent the inevitable.  Amazing to me that the state doesn t persue this more aggressively, but they have so many cases that it s tough.  I wait for news all the time it is in the back of my mind.  It s hard on us too, we never know when we may have to drop everything and go get her, and wonder if our plans will be changed etc.  It s not like plans change for one day because we need to pick her up, it sets off a whole chain of events if that happens, all of which require some flexibility on our part of course.
 
 I ll keep you guys updated as best I can, but the waiting and not knowing is really hard.