Why I would not let Raymond fix the water lines...

[SheBantam]

The water lines on the Bantam were leaking, well flooding the trailer. Raymond offered to "fix" them. I know this man, I've been married to him for 17 years, even though it was nice he offered, I have proof positive that the $95.00/hour I just spent at the dealer was worth every penny for the hour and a half it took them to fix the lines and test.


Yesterday he decided to "fix" the pipes in the old bathroom in the house. We have to get the drain king out every few months and flush the sink drain lines.

Back last year, I got tired of the old vanity in same bathroom and found a flexible trap. He was out of town. I bought a new vanity, sink and trap. I had that bad boy upstairs (had to take it up in pieces as this is a BIG vanity compared to what was in there) and put together with NO leaks. Because of where I had to set the bigger vanity, the popup drain thingee would not work. That was OK by me since we have 2 other bathrooms to soak thinks in those sinks. I was going to use a rubber plug. NOOOOO he took it all apart and tried to get the popup thingee to work, bought new drain pipes, new popup thingee and then decided that the pipes were in the way (2 days of trying to get it to work, he found out what I ahd found out in 5 minutes...we now use a rubber plug), and when all was said and done, the sink leaks and we have to keep a bowl under it.

So Mr. Fixit set out to fix the drain, I heard knocking and beating and the reciprocating saw, when I went in to look, he had a long hole in the bathroom wall, proud as pie of his accomplishment and astonished at my horror. He acknowledged that the hole was long, but "the vanity will cover it"  Oh yes the vanity will cover it, and there is little room to get out of the bathtub, and the towels on the towel bar will hang in the sink.

And to top it off, he was not going to replace the wall yet ("that is a winter time project). He was going to cut a piece of plywood to fit over the hole in the wall...remember, the vanity will cover it.

I was in tears, then I went down to the kitchen...he had taken loose the drop ceiling to look at the pipes from the bottom. All that drywall dust was on my counters and on the floor.  It was all I could take. Yes I hollered, yes I cried. Yes he stomped out, his ego crushed because I accused him of not thinking before acting and hollered him.

he is now NOT speaking to me because I treated him badly yesterday. I don't appreciate his effort. What scares me is that if he puts this much effort into "fixing" the drain pipes in the house, just what would he ahve done to my poor bantam??? Now my bathroom in the house sits with a big hole under the towel bar, sink leaking into the bowl...I learnned a long tme ago that it is better to pay the price for someone that knows what they are doing than let him excersize his male prowess...it costs less in the long run...

[campingboaters]

I hear you Paula.  
 While my husband MEANS well, he just doesn't think things through either.  Give him a car or something with a motor and he's a genious.  I'll handle fixing things in the house.  I have to say, my husband is a great sport and will help me with my projects.  I just tell him what I want done and he does it.  We worked really well together when I remodeled my kitchen until he lost patience when he thought the project should have been done and I still have molding to do.  He doesn't realize it's that last 10% that takes FOREVER -- with very little pay-off at the end.
 
 Keep your head up.  Things will settle down along with the dust.

[tlhdoc]

He will get over it Paula.  My nickname for my DH is Homer.  I don't let him near tools if I can help it.

[wiininkwe]

There is sooooo much that I would like to say here, but I can't because I know that DH sometimes lurks and reads, even tho he doesn't post.  But, if he saw what I might write about his handyman skills, well, it wouldn't be pretty.
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