RE: I know many of you are praying people...........

[Suezyque]

 

 I had to put my 14 yo DD into an adolescent psych unit last night.  She s been
 very depressed for a long time and suicidal.  There was a huge blow up
 yesterday afternoon between her and I regarding some information I found
 out about some of her " activities" .  She attacked me verbally like never
 before and threatened to run away and kill herself.  I ve dealt with her
 outbursts many times before, but this was the last straw.  She needs more
 help than I ve been able to give her.  She saw a counsellor all winter,
 but it didn t seem to help at all.  I felt I had no other choice but to
 take her to the ER and get her admitted to the psych ward.  She s in a
 hospital about an hour away.  I had to follow the ambulance there to sign her in
 and didn t get home until 4 AM.  She s very angry with me to say the
 least, but I feel she will get the help she needs.
 
 Please hold us up in your prayers.
 

[Acts 2:38 girl]

 Suezyque
Of course you have all our prayers.  I m sorry she s having such a hard time, and you too.  Teenage years are definately the worst, and some have a lot harder time that others dealing with the stress and hormones.  This really takes it s toll on a young person, and thier family.  We will keep her and tou up in prayer constantly.

[Turn Key]

 Suezyque
Done.

[forestwalker]

 Suezyque
Our prayers are with you and your daughter.We know from experience how  mental health problems can affect families.Hopefully your daughter will recover soon.You may want to find a support group-they have a lot to offer in situations similiar to this.

[Horscampr]

 Suezyque
Suzy,
 
 I feel for you [>:].  I know it seems like " tough"  love, but you did the right thing.    Even if she doesn t admit it, I m sure she knows deep, down inside that you care very much for her and love her.  That love will help to keep her going through therapy.
 
 I, myself, saw a therapist for a short while when my brother died 3yrs ago.  He was like my best friend in the whole world and I had a lot of difficulty coming to terms with his death (I still suffer from nightmares and frequent feelings of sadness....although not as severe).  I have learned that when I m feeling real blue that I need to get it out and talk about it and thats something I had a real hard time with in the beginning. I ve always been a bit of a " private"  person when it comes to discussing my problems or insecurites.
 
 I ve learned to take one day at a time and to NEVER, EVER blame myself for the feelings I have.  Some days are better than others and when things are real bad, my best friends and family are the ones I turn to.  When I m with friends and family, it doesn t seem quite as bad and I don t feel so alone.
 
 The best thing you can give your DD is your understanding and your love and it sounds to me like you are trying to do just that.  Like I said, my brother was my best friend.  I could call him at 4 in the morning when I had a spat with one of my friends and he would always listen no matter how tired he was.
 
 I hope you know too that you have many people here that consider you a friend.  If you ever need to have a good vent, cry, or just to talk....please drop me an e-mail.
 
 Both you and your DD are in my thoughts and prayers...
 Carol

[wiininkwe]

 Suezyque
You know you ve got mine too, Suez.  At one time my oldest DD was having some issues too, at that age, and I ended up having to make a decision to ask her to leave the home in order to maintain a secure home for myself, DH and other two children.  It was the best thing I ever did for her and the rest of us, and today she is very close to me, calls me when she needs to talk, leans on me when she s upset, and I can trust her to always be there for me too.  So, take heart, this doesn t have to be a bad thing, it may bring you much closer together in the end, just need to get past that  rough patch .
 Toni

[JonesFamilyJayco]

 Suezyque
I will pray for your family.  You did the right thing & I know that your daughter will eventually love you for your decision.

[Mahaffey-Family]

 Suezyque
Suezyque,
         You have made the right choice.  I will keep all of you in our prayers.

[cyclone]

 Suezyque
You got it!

[MommaMia]

 Suezyque
Though she may feel that you have betrayed her and you just don t understand, I hope you know that you have done one of the best, selfless and loving things that you could ever do for her.  Being able to say you need help is the first step.  You have realized that you need help.  Now She needs to realize that she needs help.  I m sure you know how important it is for her to hear, every day, " I love you" .  Now more than ever before.  Hopefully someday she will come to realize how strong you were to be able to do this for her.  Someday, hopefully, she ll be able to thank you for having the courage to do what you did.
 
 I grew up with a brother that needed this kind of push.  He never got it.  My parents and so many around him just turned a blind eye, ignoring the problem or pretending it wasn t there.  There were suicide threats and run ins with the law.  I know the threats were attempts to get someone to call his bluff and force him to straighten himself out.  But noone gave that real big push.  It s surprising that he didn t go through with it.  I don t think he went through with it because he was just too stubborn... Didn t care that nobody else didn t care.  He still has that in-your-face f-you f-the world additude. He has never grown up.  No job, failed realtionships, a beautiful little boy out of wedlock that he almost never sees and  and often no place to live but the local shelter.  He has been in and out of jail for most of his adult life.   I think one of the biggest factors that put him where he is, is not just the fact that he hasn t tried...but also because the important adult influences never put their foot down and showed him that THEY cared about him enough to get tough.  So consequently, HE never cared enough about himself to grow into a respectable person.  
 
 You have done a wonderful thing.  You have given your daughter a second chance.  
 
 My thoughts and prayers will be with you, and her as well.

[cavman]

 Suezyque
Suez,
 
 We ll add your name to our list.  Know that there are many out here for you and your DD.
 
 Amen
 
 

[tlhdoc]

 Suezyque
Suezyque,
 
 You have had many hard times in the last few years, but you got though them.  You will get through this too.  God doesn t give you more than you can handle.  I will pray for your family.  Don t give up you are doing the best that you can.  How is your son doing?

[Suezyque]

 Suezyque
Thank you all for your responses and emails.  I truly appreciate the prayers and support.  Yes, we ve had some hard times, but God is good and faithful.
 My son (he s 12, almost 13) is upset in his own way.  He knows all too well how his sister and I go round and round.  He gets in her way at times too and get a taste of her verbal lashings.  He asked me earlier, " do you really think it (her hospital stay) will help?" .  I told him I really believe that it will make all the difference, especially with the addition of medication.  One of the counsellors called earlier and said the Dr. wants to start her on Paxil.  I agreed whole-heartdly to go ahead with it.   Meds gave me my life back when I was deep in depression and feeling life was no longer worth living.
 Her time there is going to be intensive, once she comes home she will be seeing a adolescent psychiatrist on an out-patient basis.  I think she was ready for help, although she would never admit to it in her current state of mind.  
 Thanks again!

[cb]

 Suezyque
I wish I had some marvelous words of wisdom for you....but all I can say is:  hang in there, follow your instinct, and pray like crazy.  You are not alone.

[NCSunshine]

 Suezyque
Suezyque,
 
 Your family is in my prayers.  My prayer is for all of you to get through this rough time, and have peace and happiness once it s over.
 
 Our middle DD has problems too, right now diagnosed ADHD but still watching and keeping check on Bipolar.  It really is sad because she is only 4 years old.
 
 My favorite thing to do when everything is down, is to close my eyes and invision Jesus carrying me like a baby through the bad time(just like the " Footprints in the Sand"  saying).  Helps me, maybe you can try it.