RE: WHEN IS ENOUGH - ENOUGH????

birol · Oct 10, 2003, 08:51 AM

angelsmom10Sorry to hear that things are not at their best right now for you.

Have faith and take it one at a time. Better days can t be that far away !

wiininkwe · Oct 10, 2003, 08:58 AM

angelsmom10Wow, Nancy, lots of bad breaks all at once. I m so sorry to hear that. It s sometimes really hard to deal with the bad things especially when they pile on us like that. Just keep your chin up, girl, and this bad patch will end soon.
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MommaMia · Oct 10, 2003, 01:44 PM

angelsmom10Let s see if we can look at this another way... see the positive sides

QuoteIt s been really bad for us lately, DH been laid off since May (laid off 4 times in last 5yrs), It must be nice to get to spend some quality time together. Some families only see each other in passing. You also have more flexibility with time and can get in more camping trips than you would if he was working

the girls cars got re-ended while parked on the street in Feb (2 times) - got them fixed. DD#1 need repairsEveryone was ok. That s the most important thing. Now that repairs are done, you don t need to worry about those parts breaking or rusting out!

DH went to cut the grass the the lawn mower (18yrs old) finally bit the dust (grass 1/2 cut)Be honest... you didn t really like that mower anyway... it was too tough to push... and you had been wanting a new one but couldn t justify buying one until this one died! Hooray! Time to go toy shopping!

and got a call from DD#1 just after that that she was re-ended while waiting at the light (looks totaled). Had to leave work yesterday to take her to hospital - luckily only sprains and strains. Spun her around facing opposite direction then originally traveling and in the other lanes of traffic. Once again, most imporatant thing is she s ok. Also you got to get out of work for a few hours and let someone else there handle work

Waiting to see what else can happen

Whatever else happens, you can handle it because you are a strong person and God doesn t give us any more that He thinks we can bear!

Keep that chin up and smile, Nancy!!![

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birol · Oct 10, 2003, 01:50 PM

MommaMia

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Keep that chin up and smile, Nancy!!![]

God really thinks I can handle a lot, and same goes for Nancy ! Hey if he thinks we can, we sure can right Nancy ? [

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angelsmom10 · Oct 10, 2003, 02:02 PM

MommaMiaI ve been trying.......

QuoteIt s been really bad for us lately, DH been laid off since May (laid off 4 times in last 5yrs), It must be nice to get to spend some quality time together. Some families only see each other in passing. You also have more flexibility with time and can get in more camping trips than you would if he was workingWe had worked the same hours just a few miles apart so we drove and saved on gas. Also, we couldn t add more trips in as we had to watch our $$$ because of the last layoffs.

the girls cars got re-ended while parked on the street in Feb (2 times) - got them fixed. DD#1 need repairsEveryone was ok. That s the most important thing. Now that repairs are done, you don t need to worry about those parts breaking or rusting out!Yes we were lucky, as the cars were parked and 1 person re-ended one car which pushed it into the next car, then someone came down the hill and struck the back of that accident. Stupid people that live around us, we have a very bad hill when there s ice and they still attempt to drive down it[:@]

DH went to cut the grass the the lawn mower (18yrs old) finally bit the dust (grass 1/2 cut)Be honest... you didn t really like that mower anyway... it was too tough to push... and you had been wanting a new one but couldn t justify buying one until this one died! Hooray! Time to go toy shopping!Yes, he has been thinking about buying another one from an auction, but with finances the way they are, we just can t afford it[]

and got a call from DD#1 just after that that she was re-ended while waiting at the light (looks totaled). Had to leave work yesterday to take her to hospital - luckily only sprains and strains. Spun her around facing opposite direction then originally traveling and in the other lanes of traffic. Once again, most imporatant thing is she s ok. Also you got to get out of work for a few hours and let someone else there handle workYes, we were very fortunate that she was not injured with the amount of damage and the way he hit her. BUT, we just had the rear end fixed in May from the accident in Feb ($900 - almost totaled the car that time), then put $900 in repairs for some engine problems ONLY because we had just had the rear end fixed (WE ONLY PAID $800 LAST YEAR).

Waiting to see what else can happen

Whatever else happens, you can handle it because you are a strong person and God doesn t give us any more that He thinks we can bear!

Keep that chin up and smile, Nancy!!![

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I JUST DON T KNOW AFTER YESTERDAY.

OH - forgot to mention, we had a grandson (from my daughter from a previous marriage - not with us) last April (1 1/2yrs). He is mentally retarded (to some extent, but because of his age we don t know how bad), has no hearing in 1 ear, very, very behind in motor skills - still has trouble sitting up. His father (soon to be X-SIL) is an alcoholic and abusive. His mother would not listen to us to leave him, but her father (who said he didn t have a daughter) decided to come back into the picture this last Christmas. She was brought up by her father and I learned in the last 2yrs that he had abused her and no one in my family would do anything nor tell me that she was being abused. She now listens to her father and decided to move in with him 2hr drive away.

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They sided with my X-DH and took him in along with this DD. I had always felt that they would take care of her and make sure nothing happened. I cannot forgive them for allowing her to be abused.

angelsmom10 · Oct 10, 2003, 02:03 PM

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birol · Oct 10, 2003, 02:10 PM

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Mahaffey-Family · Oct 10, 2003, 08:30 PM

angelsmom10Hang in there Nancy, I know it is hard but, we will all keep you in our prayers. We are here to listen if and when you need us.

B-flat · Oct 11, 2003, 05:25 PM

angelsmom10Sometimes things happen for a reason and burdens seem too heavy to carry. Just remember that God doesn t sponsor any flops! All these things will make you all the better and there are good times and happiness ahead. You will be in my thoughts and prayers for whatever it is that you need at this time.

vjm1639 · Oct 14, 2003, 12:17 PM

angelsmom10

QuoteGod doesn t give us any more that He thinks we can bear!

True...but sometimes don t you just wish he didn t trust us so much! [

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Good grief Nancy [

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HUGE HUGS and lots of prayers to ya, cause it s all I know to do to help!

angelsmom10 · Oct 14, 2003, 01:39 PM

angelsmom10Thanks everyone for the support

Miss-Teri · Oct 15, 2003, 09:29 AM

angelsmom10I ll keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. Somewhere out there is a rainbow in all that gloom, and eventually you ll see it.

CajunCamper · Oct 15, 2003, 11:36 AM

angelsmom10I have a different outlook on this issue, but a very positive outlook at the same time. All my life I have heard, just as many here have put it that, " God doesn t give us any more that He thinks we can bear!" . Well I have to disagree with that totally. I can t find anything in the Bible that even remotely supports this statement. Stay with me. The Bible teaches us that God wants us to be dependent upon him for all of our needs, not some of them but all of them. If we were not faced with issues we couldn t handle ourselves, then why would we need God. Nancy, it wasn t too long ago that I came to this realization, and when I began putting my full faith in God and not myself or others for the answers to my problems, He began to do a work in my life that I can t even discribe. Some of us are more hard headed than others and I spent years of trying to fix things and solve problems without Gods help. As soon as I reached the point of pure exhaustion and a feeling of hoplessness, I fell flat on my face and began crying out to God for his help, and he heard me. His desire is to draw us near to him, and sometimes that means allowing us to be faced with situations that we can t bear. God is real and he is there waiting for you to cry out to him so that he can embrace you with his loving kindness and mercy. God Bless you and know that I am praying for you and your family.

Miss-Teri · Oct 16, 2003, 12:18 AM

angelsmom10Caution: Mushy stuff ahead. [

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Along the lines of what Cajun said, I was once feeling like too many things were happening that I couldn t handle. We had one car between us, and hubby was working full time and going to college at night. I was working also, and there were three kids to run around to various practices, etc.
Then our only car broke down. My DMIL loaned us her car (which she needed as well) until we could get another but it wasn t looking good. It would cost more to fix our current car than to buy a new (used) car, and because of lack of credit history we couldn t get a loan.
After three days of being completely stressed out, not sleeping, and trying to figure out what to do, I finally lay down in bed and decided God is a lot smarter than me and He will take care of me. I pictured myself tiny, curled up in His large hand, and finally gave it all over to Him, and fell asleep peacefully for the first time in many days.
The very next day we got a loan from our credit union, and found a Ford Escort in perfect shape with 63,000 miles on it in our price range. We still have that car, and have added over another 100,000 miles, and it still runs great. To this day, I thank God for that car almost every time I m in it.

Used 2B PopUPTimes · Oct 16, 2003, 01:23 PM

angelsmom10Whenever it seems like the light at the end of the tunnel is really the train coming I refer to this quote that I keep taped to my computer -

" Life is not the way it s supposed to be.
It s the way it is.
The way you cope with it is what makes the difference"

Dave

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