Please keep us in your prayers

[birol]

So when do they decide ? right after the second homestudy ? That will be a day after my birthday, I am sure it will bring good news for you and her  Keep us posted please :W

[NCSunshine]

I am not sure how long it will take, this is the first time we have used the Dept of Social Services to do the homestudy.  I know that it can not be completed until after the last advertisement for unknown father which will be the first part of May.

[birol]

So, one more visit and advertisement and that is it or is there more  stuff which you have to go through ?

[Miss-Teri]

Glad the first part went well.  Keeping you in my prayers for the rest of the process!

[griffsmom]

About the birthfather, birthmother actually knows who he is and has told him but he did not want any responsibilities and had since moved to CT and she will not tell. The last advertisement for unknown birthfather will be May 7th. (figured out who it was when it became obvious that Tori was bi-racial) Birthmother has four felony drug charges against her, grand theft auto, and writing thousands of dollars of bad checks on some mans account. So we have always felt safe that they (the birthparents)would not take her away, but it was just the problem of the finances to pay for the homestudy since we were already having other financial woes.

Hi NC!
 
Congrats on making it thru the first visit for your HS.  I'm an a adoptive mom too and I also work for an adoption agency here is So Cal.  Even tho you've been thru the HS proces before, it still can be nerve-wracking!  Just keep remiding yourself that the HS process is 20% screening and 80% eduction to help you be a better parent to your kids.  They're really not trying to "get" you.
 
I hope the time for the unknown BF goes quickly.  But I did have a question--since your bmom knows who the BF is, does the state plan on giving him notice as well?  I don't know what the law is in NC, but here in California, if a bmom knows or even suspects that the BF may be a particular guy, he has to be given notice of the adoption so that he has the ability to either consent to the adoption, waive his parental rights, or (hopefully not) assert them.  If he weren't given notice, he could possibly be able to come back years down the line and seek to overtturn the adoption.  I'm not trying to worry you, but our son's adoption was contested by his BF and I would hate to see that happen to anybody else because proper procedure wasn't followed.
 
You are most definitely in our prayers.  Please let us know how things go on the 23rd!

[NightOwl]

Hey there, NC:S

We're all hoping for good news that the BF will  not have any interest in this whole thing and will either waive or stay out of the picture entirely.

I've always thought that true Parenthood is a matter of the Heart and Soul, not of the gonads!

Do keep us posted so we can celebrate with you  

[NCSunshine]

Birol, we still have criminal background checks to have done, and medical checkups about our health and Tori's.

Griffsmom, since she will not reveal to anyone who he is, the only way to do it is unknown BF advertisement.  Plus she did tell him but he had no interest, so we might could use that as evidence that he knew but did not want her if something should come up later.

I think that the stress of HR Block coupled with the Homestudy and attending college full time just about did me in.  Thank God working at HR Block ends Thursday April 15th!!!  (it is very stressful at the end of the season)