RE: O/T - Starting a new ADHD journey

fivegonefishing · Sep 28, 2003, 07:05 PM

I need to vent...as some of you are aware, my DD who is 7.5 has been diagnosed with ADHD. It has not been an easy road but we have been dealing with it day-to-day. For the last few months, one of our twin sons, aged 5, has been exhibiting several signs of ADHD. This morning those signs were particularly overt; it was just like watching a video of DD when she was that age. I just sat back and felt like crying.

It has been exhausting and the thought of having to go through that struggle all over again overwhelmed me then something happened?when DSB couldn?t make up his mind on whether or not to put on long-johns, DH just gave him a big hug and reassured him that it was alright. Then I realized we have learned so much in the last 3 years, we have grown as parents and we will not accept anything but the best for our children.

It doesn?t appear that DSB has as many conditions as DD, after all they are different children. Guess I?ll have to have another chat with our Doctor sooner than I had thought. So far, DSA hasn?t exhibited any signs of ADHD, I?m not sure if that?s a good thing or not; he?ll be the only child in my family not needing special education. OK, I?m done for now, thanks for letting me vent.

Tammy

cooncreekers · Feb 24, 2003, 04:04 PM

fivegonefishinghoney, you need a big ol {{{{{{hug}}}}}}} [

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there, feel better? now just hold on, this is jmho, but you know i have been through this with 2 of our 4 kids, so i think i have a little bit of an idea of how you must be feelin. but, i personally think the boys might be a little young to all of a sudden start thinking right away that thats what it is. i mean, didn`t you just recently get an actual diagnosis on dd? maybe you are just edgy, ya know? i mean, 5 yr olds do act a little [8D] ANYWAY! i`m not saying they don`t have it also, because it certainly IS hereditary, but i wouldn`t get myself all worked up until ya know for sure. and besides, you said yourself you have alot more knowlege now than when you started, so that will definately help, right? so the road will be a little smoother the next time you have to go down it! well, that`s just my opinion, lord knows i`ve made enough mistakes before, and this could be my next one! i just hope you can have confidence in your ability to handle this based on your having" been there, done that" !

fivegonefishing · Feb 24, 2003, 07:26 PM

fivegonefishingthanks leigh anne, I really needed that. [

] DD was diagnosed in Nov of 2000, we just recently had her tested for learning disabilities and academic positioning (IQ), we should get those results back next week. With DD, I always knew from day one that something just wasn t right. She never made what an average person would consider a " good choice" She couldn t concentrate, keep her hands to herself and she didn t realize consequences at all. with DD, there was no question, she is text book adhd plus some! We have just been referred to a study looking into ADHD symtoms being enhanced due to the strep virus.

With DSB, there has always been minor indicators, nothing glaring like DD. We re hoping it s just a growing faze but he is starting to really have problems concentrating and making " good" choices and decisions. It was like dejavu this morning tho. We re hoping that with behaviour modification techniques we have learned along the way, we can help DSB cope.

I do feel better though, thanks.[

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birol · Feb 24, 2003, 11:08 PM

fivegonefishingTammy,

Just wishing you strength and more strength as you give a lot more to your children than we ever had to. They are precious and deserve all the attention and love and care they need.

I hope now you are more knowledgable about the issues you are facing and I hope it is a false alarm.

Good luck .....

NCSunshine · Feb 25, 2003, 12:20 AM

fivegonefishingOur 4 year old DD was diagnosed in January with ADHD. I was so concerned that it was worse, Bipolar. The doctor also is still weighing both. With both of her medications, she is doing so much better. Still worry alot about her though. She was one also that you could tell from the start that something was not right.

I pray that you have the inner peace you need to keep you from going nuts[

] And yes, a hug or a very quitely spoken word does more to calm the storm than anything else.

God Bless

NightOwl · Feb 25, 2003, 08:23 AM

fivegonefishingTammy, I hope you are wrong abt DS, but a friend s daughter began exhibiting signs at age three (although not actually diagnosed until later) Trust your instincts about this and make sure you get a good diagnostic workup even if the doctors dont want to do it. That way, either you will know your son needs help, or you can experience the relief of NOT having another ADHD child to be concerned about.

I have always thought you sounded like a loving, determined and dedicated mother even as you have expressed your worries over this. And it must make you feel " outnumbered" to even consider the possibility of another special nneds child in your family. Yet, there is hope--early diagnosis will help, as will the fact that medical science has come a long way with this in the past few years and there is more yet to come which will lighten your load as time goes on. Even the teaching profession has been drawn into this in a much more active and understanding way lately.

And you can always turn here for a laugh or some comforting words or hug therapy. [

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Gamecock Camper · Feb 25, 2003, 08:35 AM

fivegonefishingTammy, I really understand where you are coming from. Our middle son was diagnosed with ADD around 5 years old. It wasn t until later that we found that he really has Asberger s Syndrome. Asbergers includes a whole range of symptoms that include ADD, Depression, social problems, general immaturity, a high IQ, a natural intelligence that includes traits associated with Autism (think Rain Man)..... It has been a long journey as he is now 10 years old.... and I know it will continue to be a journey of triumphs and difficult times. I know that at least you are aware of what is going on with your kids. There are some parents out there that don t have a clue or don t take the time and effort to understand, discipline or spend time with their own kids. I know that whatever the future holds that your children are in good hands. You are stronger than you probably think you are. I have learned alot about myself, my family, and my son through it all and am very thankful. There are many other things that are much much worse than ADD, ADHD or Asbergers. And historically, the kids / people that deal with this have a better chance of making great discoveries because of their out of the box thinking.

Opie431 · Feb 25, 2003, 12:32 PM

fivegonefishingHave you found the online resources for parents with ADHD children?

fivegonefishing · Feb 25, 2003, 12:52 PM

Opie431

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Have you found the online resources for parents with ADHD children?

Only if PUT counts, [

] do you have any suggestions? I have find information but not support resources.

fivegonefishing · Feb 25, 2003, 01:03 PM

Gamecock Camper

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It wasn t until later that we found that he really has Asberger s Syndrome. Asbergers includes a whole range of symptoms that include ADD, Depression, social problems, general immaturity, a high IQ, a natural intelligence that includes traits associated with Autism (think Rain Man).....

Samantha is PDD or Pervaisive Disorder Developement which sounds sort of similar but not as sever as Asbergers. She has a real hard time understanding that her actions can directly effect others and that other people can effect her.

She has come a long way and continues to grow and mature. I m sure that those who who have met Sam may think that I m looney but maybe not. We have worked on the big things---no hands, no feet, no objects---watch were she goes---and continue to work on the little things. I feel sorry for DD sometimes because we can t let her get a way with much.

cooncreekers · Feb 25, 2003, 01:04 PM

fivegonefishinghttp://www.adhd.com/

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fivegonefishing · Feb 25, 2003, 02:39 PM

cooncreekers

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http://www.adhd.com/

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Thank You!

I ve been reading the m/b there and I m in tears, they talk about so much that she does...the tics, picking, changing her mind, weight loss, clonodine, agression...it s nice to know we are not alone.

Tammy[

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