RE: Oh oh...going against the teacher!

[B-flat]

 birol
Grandson and Daughter went through a terrible ordeal last year in trying to work with the teacher " for the best for the child."   It was not working out with face to face visits.  It took a few visits with the principal to get him moved into a different classroom.  Something is wrong when a teacher can t document exactly what was wrong and insists that a " privilege be taken away."   Something is wrong when the child is accused of doing something that he didn t do and other " witnesses"  say he wasn t doing it.  Something is wrong when it is found that the same thing is happening to other students and there is a pattern exhibited by the teacher.  NO!  Glossing it over as a bad hair day is not the answer.
 
 Your husband sounds like an honorable and honest person.  However the teacher being discussed at the start of this thread made a very bad mistake.  I have yet to learn if this teacher has appologized or owned up to her story.[: (][: (][:@][:@]

[jstaddwtr]

 birol
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 Thanks for your kind words...............but no one said anything about glossing over anything.   Other than complimenting Camperroo, I specifically and intentionally did not take a position on the facts at issue. [][][]

[springer02]

 birol
I m curious, how this this resolve, or hasn t it yet???
 
 Tena

[B-flat]

 birol
I am wondering what the other parents did about this matter and what is the current status?

[Camperroo]

 birol
Hi all...well here s the update.  In this specific issue I was definitely going against the teacher because well...I was... as that was in the best interest of my child for that situation.  She was clearly in the wrong...my first attempt was a face to face with her and she got very flustered and told me she was in a hurry and couldn t finish our discussion, and as I had mentioned before, for however intent she was on describing the behavior, she couldn t explain how it was that she missed me and the other mom pretty much sitting right smack next to the children.  When we got to that point, that s when she started walking away from me backwards saying she was in a hurry and had to go.  As she wasn t even my son s actual teacher I and the other mom then went to their teacher who was also at church that day.  She admitted she heard or saw no bad behavior and thought perhaps this teacher might have misinterpreted a behavior, perhaps when the boys were looking over at us to exchange hellos...She said that she would not keep the boys in from recess anymore.  
 
 We also expressed our concern that she was not the one to handle the situation when it arose and why would she allow another teacher to walk into her classroom to confront the children without first bringing it to her attention.  She agreed that that behavior by the other teacher upset her, as it was her class, and she had interrupted it without so much as an excuse me...I d like to speak to your class or speak to her privately first before discussing it with the kids.  She said she has since spoken to this woman and told her that in the future, she was to consult with her first and not just walk into her classroom and speak to her class as she felt it put her in an awkward situation with her own students.   The other teacher is now avoiding us completely and staying away from the kids.  Apparently I ve learned there have been other complaints about her and she " may not be coming back for next year."
 
 So basically, the situation has quietly disappeared.  My son said everything is going well in class and the other teacher doesn t come barging in anymore...so that tells me something positive there!  I m just glad I and the other mom spoke up, because sometimes you have to deal with sticky situations and confront them head on.    You ve got to support your child and sometimes that means they are in the wrong and should be held accountable but sometimes they are also right and deserve to be stood up for.
 
 I wish I could have kept that teacher in for recess for the rest of the year for fibbing!!! []  
 
 
 
 

[Miss-Teri]

 birol
And made her sign a confession!!!  []
 
 Good to hear it all worked out.  Sounds like your son s teacher did a good job in putting the other teacher in her place.  Hopefully that other teacher didn t go and take her bad mood out on her own class.  I think a new line of work that doesn t involve children might fit her better.

[Gamecock Camper]

 birol
All in all a job well done by a caring parent.  Our experience with teachers and school administrators has been over-all a very positive one.  We have a special needs child who we watch out for.  Unfortunately, we have to " train"  new teachers each and every new school year because each year the new teachers need to understand the importance of each and every item within our son s IEP (Individual Education Plan) and 504 plan (Accomodations plan).  We communicate daily with the school to make sure that our son is pushed when pushing is requred and that the teachers (or even us as parents) are pushed to do whatever is needed to make our son perform at his fullest potential.  If each and every child (and teacher and school administrator and parent) is not doing that.... then we are not going to see what they can really achieve.....  We are truly blessed that we have not had any situation like the one you had, but we also are always available, volunteering, and high profile enough where there will seldom be any doubt of where changes are needed when situations arise......