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Well I'm alone now, and it hurts

Started by mike4947, Jan 20, 2004, 04:02 PM

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mike4947

You folks haven't know but my wife has been teminal with cancer for the last two years and finally the chemo treatments stopped working this fall.
She died this morning, and with the help of Hospice I was able to keep her home where she wanted to be and comfortable and pain free.
 
You hear folks talk about someone being the love of your life and I always wondered if that was possible, then I met Linda. We only had 3 years together and we were married on New Years Eve 2001. But I wouldn't have traded one minute with her for an extra hundred years of life without her.
 
I'm not looking for sympathy, I feel I'm just notifying family as you folks are family to me.
 
This summer I'll probably meet a few of you as Linda's wish was she be creamated and I've got a list of her favorite spots in the world and her ashes will be scattered on them. Quite a few are campgrounds and of course for people that knew her; the panda areas at Washington and San Diego zoos.
 
Right up until last week, she make me pull out all the campground and trailer brochures we had collected and she enjoyed just going throught them with me. So folks now you know why this last year we've been without trailer.

NightOwl

Mike, you have described a remarkable and very loving and unselfish woman.  Death cant truly take her away from you as long as you have these sweet memories.  And three years with the love of your life isnt long enough, but then even 50 years wouldnt be long enough when you have blessed with such a good marriage.  May God comfort you and the others who knew and  loved Linda.

The people who work with Hospice are truly Angels of Mercy.

And thank you for sharing your story--it makes the rest of us stop and think of what is really important  in life and thankful for all those who share their love with us

SheBantam

Quote from: mike4947You hear folks talk about someone being the love of your life and I always wondered if that was possible, then I met Linda. We only had 3 years together and we were married on New Years Eve 2001. But I wouldn't have traded one minute with her for an extra hundred years of life without her.
 
I'm not looking for sympathy, I feel I'm just notifying family as you folks are family to me.

Will you accept my prayers for you.  I do know what lonliness is and I do know what it is to loose someone so close that it feels like a piece of you went with them.  I do not have the words to say because at this point, nothing I or anyone could say can help much.  

God bless you.
Paula

MommaMia

How lucky you were to have found the love of your life and had three wonderful years together.  I only wish that there could have been many more.

I'm sure she knew how lucky she was to have someone who cherished her like you do.

Bless you both.
With my deepest sympathies~

Camperroo

It sounds like you both had a beautiful life together and I'm so sorry for your loss now.  However, it sounds like she gave you a wonderful gift in memories and I'm sure she told you time and again she would want you to be happy and to go on with life as a great adventure.  It sounds like she enjoyed adventures.

My thoughts are with you and I wish you well.

brainpause

Mike,

Not many things get me misty-eyed. But as a fellow camper, who I have come to appreciate here and at other sites, I want you to know that I will be praying for you and my thoughts will be with you.

May you find strength, Mike.

Larry

Gone-Camping

Mike, I'm not real good with this subject, and never know what to say. You seem to have great resolve and are taking this well. I've had loved ones taken by cancer too, it's not pretty, and it's awful waiting for the end to come. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck and God bless...

luvourjayco

not much one can say to someone they know by a log in name and a message board. ((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))) and we're here if you need to talk.
You and your family will be in our prayer.
God blessing to you.

cyclone

Just wanted to know you are in my thoughts as well.  From what I've read, you shared a love than many of us only dream of.  Be strong.

jpreiser

So sorry to hear of your loss and heavens gain. You are in my thoughts and prayers....

cb

Oh, Mike, I feel so sad for you.  It's so hard to make sense out of this life, love and death stuff.  Please let your family and friends (including PUTimes friends) console you. When you come to San Diego, we'd love to meet you.  God bless you.

tlhdoc

I am sorry to hear of your great loss.  It sounds like you had a wonderful marriage.  May you meet her again in a better place.

AustinBoston

Mike,

It takes time.

I've heard it said "It takes 2 years to get over the death of a parent, 5 years to get over the death of a spouse, and you never get over the death of a child."  I don't know if that's all true, and I'm sure it's different for every person and every relationship, but the point is the same.  It takes time.

PJay and I will keep you in our prayers, and feel free to keep us informed about how things are going for you.

Austin

Kelly

Words fail me ... might I just say that my thoughts are with you, Mike.  Sounds like you and Linda shared something incredibly special.  

I hope you find comfort in your family and friends ...

Miss-Teri

Sounds like not only were you blessed to have her in your life, but she was blessed to have you as well.  Having someone you love there with you to love you and care for you until the end is what we all hope for in life.  
I'm truly sorry for your loss.