Marriage proposal ideas!!??

[Acts 2:38 girl]

Hopefully soon my sister will be getting ingaged!!   She has already told her future fiancee to ask me for hints - which she has supplied many of!!  I need some different ideas.  Something she will not expect.  Now, her ideas are:  someplace quiet, private, etc. where it will be very discreet and special.  For those of you in MA - are you familiar with Tower Hill Botanicle Society?   Beautiful place - one of her favorites.  But she wants him to ask her there.  No surprise in that!   :rolleyes:   What is the best proposal you've ever heard of or seen or experienced?  Some locations in Mass would be great too!  I know I can count on all of you for help!

[Ab Diver]

I gotta admit, Brainpause's proposal to Holly made me a kinda misty. Well done, dude!

 
Me? I took my wife on a "4x4 exploratory" trip, under the pretense of seeing "just to see how far we could get". I already knew I could make it, since I'd made the trip a few weeks before to check out the perfect site. Drove up to the highest mountaintop around, where we could see the next county to the East, other mountains 50 miles away to the North and South, and the ocean waaaaay off in the distance to the West. Timed it so we hit the peak right at sunset. The view was incredible, the sky was something right out of the movie "The Outsiders". There wasn't another soul for miles around. The moment was set, everything was perfect.
 
Popped the question. (in case you were wondering, she said yes. )
 
Then I opened the console in between the bucket seats of my Bronco, which I'd filled with ice, a bottle of Champaign, and two crystal goblets, before I picked her up.
 
 
Dunno if that will work in MA, though.  Tell your sister congrats from all of us here at PUT.

[B-flat]

Hmmmm, if she already knows she is getting engaged, then how is this going to be a surprise :confused:   Oh, you say, she doesn't know!   Well, go ahead and tell him that Botanical place is so special to her and how she just loves it and all.  Has he got the ring picked out?

[jpreiser]

have him take her to the beach....
As they are walking along he "finds" a shell, of course all wnt to see if a pearl is inside... No pearl just a dimond ring!!!

[HersheyGirl]

But, what if she wants to pick out her own ring?  I didn't what my DH to pick out the ring that I am going to wear the rest of my life.  I wanted to do it myself.  I am so glad I did and so is he. (his ring is a mirror image of mine, but without the diamond). We designed them and had them made.

[Acts 2:38 girl]

Oh, the ring is picked out, but she doesn't know when it will be paid for!! :Z   SHE wants him to propose at the Botanical place.  I am insisting she should be surprised!  Love the idea about a shell though!  She loves the ocean!

[NightOwl]

well, long ago in a galaxy far, far away, my BF and I were talking marriage and on  Christmas Eve, he brought me a beautifully wrapped good-sized package.  I opened it to find a box of very fancy chocolates.  I thought this was very nice and so  I  passed them around the room. It was kind of puzzling, but I saw my mother start to laugh (she knew!)  Richard's  face got a little pale and he retrieved the box and came back to me with it--pointed to a wrapped candy in the very center and said, "TRY THIS ONE."  I picked it up--it was odd looking and feeling because inside the wrapping was not candy, but a platinum and diamond engagement ring.  I did not marry him, so gave the ring back when I broke off with him, but always remember his inventiveness in surprising me with that ring.

DH and I were sitting in his car on a beautiful mountaintop in the Unicoi Mountains in a heavy mist trying to decide whether it was going to clear off enough for us to go ahead and have our picnic when he suddenly asked me "would you go to Charlottesville with me this fall if I buy you a stove?"  I hastily said "YES!")  But then,  it occurred to me that I'd better pin down exactly what he meant so I said, "Well, was that a marriage proposal or  WHAT?  You need to know that my parents will NEVER let me go to Virginia with you as your concubine."  He gulped and said, "it's a MARRIAGE proposal."  Maybe not awfully romantic, but that was 45 years ago so he MUST have done something right :S  (And I DID get a nice stove as well as a  great husband and two wonderful kids out of this.)

In your sister's case, Andi,  I would not recommend either of the above approaches--the idea of the Botanical Gardens seems just right.  Maybe he could put the ring in the center of a  pretty blossom just before he presents it
to her?  

PS--Dave, what a ROMANTIC and delightful proposal--I bet you have a great marriage!

[Ab Diver]

PS--Dave, what a ROMANTIC and delightful proposal--I bet you have a great marriage!

Thank you. Yeah, she's pretty special. Both of our parents' have been married for over 45 years, and we fully intend to beat their records.  
 
That doesn't mean we can't joke about it, of course.... she keeps saying that the only reason she keeps me around is those (fictitious) payments my Mom sends her every month, and Mom says she only sends them to keep me from coming back home.

[brainpause]

I gotta admit, Brainpause's proposal to Holly made me a kinda misty. Well done, dude!

***blush***

Thanks!

Here's my take on this: It will be more special if the guy comes up with the idea and the details ALL on his own. Once I had told Holly all the hoops I had to jump through, it became even more special.

Now, if he is the kind of guy that needs a little "help", (which I assume is the case, because you are asking), make a couple of little suggestions, like the ones that have already been made. But, if he's good, it will be a complete surprise!

I was so "smooth" that Holly even picked out her own engagement ring, and didn't even know it!! She was really surprised to get the ring that she liked!

For those of you who haven't read my "story," see
http://www.larryandhollycrockett.com/proposal.html

Larry

[brainpause]

I was going to upload the video of my proposal to my site, but it won't let me upload above 5 MB. The video file is 49 MB. Kinda hard to pare it down to 5 MB! Unless somebody here has an idea to get it to be a smaller file??? It is an mpeg file.

Larry

[julecav]

If he wants to really surprise her he should take her to that Botanical place but not ask her there.  He should have someone sneak over to her place fill it with flowers and candles etc.  That way when she's trying to hide the fact that she's so disappointed when she walks in to the house it will be such a good surprise.  He can send her in first and after she looks around and turns around he can be behind her on one knee.

When DH proposed it was sweet.  We were at his house and he covered my face with a pillow got the ring put it on my finger and said good it fits then he took it back off and put it away.  Then he took me for a drive and we went for a walk and he asked me in the park by a huge rock.  I told him for our 25th anniversary I wanted a piece of that rock polished and set into a ring.

[MommaMia]

When my DH and I were just dating, some evenings, we used to go out to a field just beyond the airports runways.  We would lie on the blanket looking up at the stars and just talk.  Every 15 mins or so, a plane would come in for a landing, flying right over the tops of us!  It was so much fun!  You could see everything on the bottom of the plane and the deafening roar of the jet engines would make your chest rumble!

One evening we were driving by our spot and we pulled into the small dirt parking area near the airport fence.  DH had a 69 Camaro convertible so we put the top down, climbed into the back seat to talk (really!) and watch the planes come in.  That's where he pulled out that little velvet box and popped the question.  It was very romantic.

[K-man]

I would tell him to plan a couple of nice dinners or romantic evenings over the course of a couple of months. Every time they do something "special" she will be expecting something.  Tell him to put a ring sized box object in his pocket, or hint around to the subject, but go no further.  When nothing happens that is expected to, it will bring her back down to earth and teach her and her sister a lesson about scheming.  It will also make the real proposal a surprise and more meaningful because he thought of it.  

[birol]

I am afraid I agree with this. I would not like being told where to propose in any way or shape, it just wouldn't bode good bells well for the future. Even If I were told, I would find a way to weasel out of it and do it my way, as much as it is being proposed to, it is also being the one who proposes. Sorry if I posted little bit out of context, but I have been holding myself since the thread started, and I think this makes sense as well.

I would tell him to plan a couple of nice dinners or romantic evenings over the course of a couple of months. Every time they do something "special" she will be expecting something.  Tell him to put a ring sized box object in his pocket, or hint around to the subject, but go no further.  When nothing happens that is expected to, it will bring her back down to earth and teach her and her sister a lesson about scheming.  It will also make the real proposal a surprise and more meaningful because he thought of it.  

[NightOwl]

I am afraid I agree with this. I would not like being told where to propose in any way or shape, it just wouldn't bode good bells well for the future. Even If I were told, I would find a way to weasel out of it and do it my way, as much as it is being proposed to, it is also being the one who proposes. Sorry if I posted little bit out of context, but I have been holding myself since the thread started, and I think this makes sense as well.

Birol, you are a TRUE ROMANTIC!  And I agree with all those who say that Andi's future BIL needs to find his own way to do this unpromted by his future sister-in-law or his future bride.  WHATEVER he does, no matter how mundane it might seem to others, it will be romantic because  the idea came from HIM especially for HER!