Talking too LOUD & Too much..what to do?

[PopUpMomma]

What do you do (without hurting feelings) when the people you are camping with talk ALL THE TIME...really Really REALLY LOUD?  We recently went camping and couldn't get away from the talkers.  Which wouldn't even be too bad except they were EXTREMLY LOUD.  It didn't matter what time it was I am sure the entire campground heard them.  5:30 in the morning or 11:00 at night.  We even ducked out on some side trips for peace and quiet.

[NightOwl]

oh, boy, this is a really bad situation..  You  have my sympathy.  If you say something you will hurt their feelings or offend them and make them mad.  On the  other hand, if you dont say something, then you have to put up with it and it can be very wearing on the nerves and ruin an otherwise good time.

I assume this was a group camp-out?  Is it just one person or a whole family or husband-wife combination?  How old is this person (persons?)?  Is there a hearing loss?  do they work in an environment that is very noisy and maybe they have formed the habit of talking loudly?  

Mainly, Is this an otherwise good person who is kind to others?  (It makes it  easier, of course, if they are not someone you want to continue a friendship with--then you can be a little more blunt.)  How do others feel about this person?

Assuming it is someone you dont want to hurt or  get rid of, then your tactful options are sort of limited.  Have you considered an anonymous letter saying that several people have noticed they have a problem and you dont want to embarrass them by mentioning it publicly, but do they have a hearing loss?  And maybe mention that sometimes it is better to listen than to talk.

There are people who literally have a type of mental glitch which  results in their talking nonstop ALL  the time.  I mean this is truly pathological and it can really be painful to be in their presence because for one thing you cannot get away from them once they start their monologue, and for another, they are just plain boring--they never leave room for anyone to say a word.  I have met 3 people like this--one was a doctor's wife, a  pretty, bright, charming woman who just babbled and babbled endlessly and drove everyone up the wall until her own 3 grown children got together and forced her to see a shrink about this, it was so bad.  I mean they couldnt even stand to have her visit their homes.

The kind of person you describe can sure ruin a nice tranquil camping trip in a hurry and maybe, if there are others in your group who feel the same way, you can get them to join in your efforts to shut off the loud, constant jabbering.

Good luck and let us know what happens.

[PopUpMomma]

I think we are stuck.  It was just another couple and us.  Both of them play tag team when talking.  It truly is unbelievable.   :yikes: She works for DH.  I think we just won't go again unless there is a good group so we can escape.   Gotta keep up the morale of the lab.   And, yes she keeps going at the alb.  It's easier to get away because everyone just goes to the other part of the lab or turns on their equipment.  And, yes, DH, the boss, has mentioned the constant talking problem.  WHat were we thinking?
Thanks for ear....
R

oh, boy, this is a really bad situation..  You  have my sympathy.  If you say something you will hurt their feelings or offend them and make them mad.  On the  other hand, if you dont say something, then you have to put up with it and it can be very wearing on the nerves and ruin an otherwise good time.

I assume this was a group camp-out?  Is it just one person or a whole family or husband-wife combination?  How old is this person (persons?)?  Is there a hearing loss?  do they work in an environment that is very noisy and maybe they have formed the habit of talking loudly?  

Mainly, Is this an otherwise good person who is kind to others?  (It makes it  easier, of course, if they are not someone you want to continue a friendship with--then you can be a little more blunt.)  How do others feel about this person?

Assuming it is someone you dont want to hurt or  get rid of, then your tactful options are sort of limited.  Have you considered an anonymous letter saying that several people have noticed they have a problem and you dont want to embarrass them by mentioning it publicly, but do they have a hearing loss?  And maybe mention that sometimes it is better to listen than to talk.

There are people who literally have a type of mental glitch which  results in their talking nonstop ALL  the time.  I mean this is truly pathological and it can really be painful to be in their presence because for one thing you cannot get away from them once they start their monologue, and for another, they are just plain boring--they never leave room for anyone to say a word.  I have met 3 people like this--one was a doctor's wife, a  pretty, bright, charming woman who just babbled and babbled endlessly and drove everyone up the wall until her own 3 grown children got together and forced her to see a shrink about this, it was so bad.  I mean they couldnt even stand to have her visit their homes.

The kind of person you describe can sure ruin a nice tranquil camping trip in a hurry and maybe, if there are others in your group who feel the same way, you can get them to join in your efforts to shut off the loud, constant jabbering.

Good luck and let us know what happens.

[NightOwl]

:yikes: --sounds like you are indeed stuck.  And when you add the complication of her working in your husband's lab, then it gets really sticky.  OMG!  You mean they   (she and hubby)  BOTH DO IT?   Gee whiz, that sounds almost unbearable, and to think  it goes on at work and then socially just boggles the mind.

I think your only real recourse is the one you mentioned of trying not to camp with them too often.  My gosh how do the people at work stand it though--no matter what kind of lab it is, it surely must  require a certain amount of quiet since any kind of lab work is usually fairly demanding in terms of being precise about what you are doing, and that takes concentration.

I get this mental image of a lab tragedy someday because she distracted someone at a crucial  time and they did the wrong thing with some H2SO4 (:J)  (like try to drink it in an attempt to escape her.)

At least when you camp, though, cant you get away with saying "shushhh" now and then because of campground rules about quiet time?  or even saying, "you know, if we dont quiet down, we may get into trouble--maybe we ought to say goodnight now and go to bed quietly."  

[Camperroo]

I find that if you are with someone with talking loud, just start to lower your own voice and usually they will follow suit naturally after a little bit of time.

If that doesn't work I just tell 'em quiet down, you're gonna wake up the dead...they get the hint rather quickly.

[tlhdoc]

During quiet time you could remind them that it is quiet time.  Good luck.

[MommaMia]

During quiet time you could remind them that it is quiet time.  Good luck.

Extremely simple and to the point. Good suggestion.